Reshaping your life is an active process that requires regular feedback and checking in with yourself. It can be helpful to have a trusted friend or counselor to give you feedback and advice during this time. But it is essential to listen to your inner voice and find where the outside guidance rings true to your authentic self.

One of the ways I practice receiving advice is to pretend that I’m giving that advice to a good friend. I will ask myself if my friend Jill came to me with this problem, what would I suggest she do to correct it? We are often brilliant when it comes to advising others, but for some reason, we don’t always apply the same judgment when it concerns ourselves.

Using this tactic will put you into an active role in problem-solving, and it helps to shake off your personal filters to imagine someone else with the dilemma. In my case, I am also softer on others than I am on myself, I find a little more compassion when I’m working things out this way.

If you are trying to tackle one of life’s more significant concerns, such as a career change, new relationship, new home, or to correct a health problem. Instead of asking for a “should I, or shouldn’t I” answer; ask yourself “what am I seeking by doing or having this?”

This trick works particularly well when you are journaling. It can open the door for those “ah-hah!” moments and allow space for reflection. Writing down the advice is also helpful because you can see your choice of words. Are they reflective and filled with positive affirmations or are they pessimistic and destructive in tone?

A richer, bolder, and more prosperous life are within your reach. With every step and bit of work that you apply to achieve it, more becomes manifest in your life. It is all there inside of you waiting to emerge.